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Two months later we were married. On our wedding night as we were preparing for bed I got out the new pajamas I had bought and decided to wear. At that point my wife gave me her wedding gift....a beautiful white satin night- gown and negligee. The pajamas are still unworn. We have been married ten years now....the happiest ten years of my whole life. I wear my things whenever I like, my wife will permit me to wear nothing but nightgowns to bed... she says she has become so accustomed to feeling my silk and lace next to her that she would feel strange and un- comfortable if I wore anything else. She buys all of my things and seems to enjoy shopping for me. We are very happy...we seem to have very few problems... we have had the usual number of minor arguments but nothing ever serious. But neither of us is exactly the serious type anyhow.

So "girls", please, if you decide to marry, tell her about it! There is no sense in one or both being miserable

CHARLENE--Hawaii

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P.S. My very lovely little wife (about half my size) has kept my old powder blue dinner dress and the white our wedding night in her cedar chest. I just discovered this a few months ago. She is a wonder- ful sentimental person.. she will never know how much that little action of hers means to me.

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COMMENT FROM VIRGINIA: I'd like to wholeheartedly sec- ond Charlene's comments. I've been through exactly the same situation and learned the same lessons. (1) TV does not go away with marriage, (2) the frustrations are most upsetting, (3) when the wife finds out or you tell her she doesnt understand and feels cheated because you didnt give her a chance to accept the "whole" you, (4) a divorce is almost certain to follow which is a very sad experience particularly if children are involved. and (5) if and when you do marry again and you do tell her in advance and she accepts it the marriage can be a most happy and satisfying experience...more than you hoped.